Releasing the Inner Voice of “Not Enough”: A Deeper Path to Confidence and Self Love

Releasing the Inner Voice of “Not Enough”: A Deeper Path to Confidence and Self Love

Many people do the outer work.
They set goals.
They work with coaches.
They invest in personal development.

And yet, beneath all of that effort, there is often a quiet inner voice whispering:

I’m not enough.
I have to prove myself.
If people really knew me, they wouldn’t accept me.

This voice isn’t logical.
It isn’t loud.
But it is powerful.

Addressing this deeper inner dialogue is not about religion, it’s about inner awareness, self-connection, and healing at the core level.

Where the “Not Enough” Story Comes From

The belief of “not enough” rarely begins in adulthood.

It often forms through:

• Early emotional experiences

• Subtle messages received growing up

• Past disappointments or betrayals

• Moments where it felt safer to shrink, perform, or protect

Over time, these experiences shape an internal narrative that quietly influences confidence, relationships, and success.

This inner dialogue becomes the lens through which we see ourselves and the world.

Spiritual Growth Without Religion

Spiritual growth does not require belief systems, rituals, or dogma.

At its core, spirituality is about:

• Awareness

• Connection to the self

• Inner truth

• Alignment between who you are and how you live

When someone begins to listen to their inner world with compassion instead of judgment, healing naturally unfolds.

This is where deep confidence and self-love begin—not from achievement, but from self-acceptance.

Releasing Inner Resistance and Self Judgment

When the nervous system relaxes and the mind becomes still, the inner voice that says “I’m not enough” can soften.

Through practices such as hypnosis, deep inner work, and mindful awareness, individuals can:

• Identify where the inner narrative began

• Release emotional weight attached to old beliefs

• Create space for a new, more supportive inner dialogue

This isn’t about positive thinking or forcing affirmations.
It’s about gently updating the inner story.

Confidence That Comes From Within

True confidence is not loud or performative.

It is calm.
It is grounded.
It is embodied.

When someone no longer feels the need to prove their worth, they:

• Speak more clearly

• Set healthier boundaries

• Make aligned decisions

• Show up more authentically

This inner shift naturally supports professional growth, leadership, creativity, and personal relationships.

Self Love as the Foundation for Growth

Self love is not self indulgence or ego.

It is the ability to:

• Be with yourself without harsh judgment

• Trust your inner guidance

• Feel worthy without conditions

When self love is present, growth no longer feels like fixing something “broken.”
It becomes an expansion into who you already are.

How Inner Alignment Impacts Professional and Personal Life

When deeper inner resistance is released:

• Motivation feels natural

• Confidence becomes consistent

• Success feels sustainable rather than stressful

• Relationships improve through authenticity

Inner alignment allows both personal fulfillment and professional success to coexist, without burnout or self sacrifice.

Final Thoughts

The journey to confidence and self-love is not about becoming someone new.

It’s about releasing the inner stories that say you were never enough to begin with.

When those stories soften, people naturally rise personally, professionally, and spiritually into lives that feel more aligned, meaningful, and free.

How Coaching Works with the Conscious Mind (and Why Insight Alone Isn’t Always Enough)

How Coaching Works with the Conscious Mind (and Why Insight Alone Isn’t Always Enough)

Coaching is an effective tool for creating clarity, direction, and accountability. It helps people define goals, recognize patterns, and develop strategies for personal and professional growth.

For many clients, coaching brings powerful “aha” moments.

And yet, insight alone doesn’t always lead to lasting change.

Many people know what they want and what they should do, but still struggle to follow through. This disconnect often has less to do with motivation and more to do with the subconscious mind.

The Role of the Conscious Mind in Coaching

Coaching primarily engages the conscious mind, the part responsible for logic, awareness, and decision-making. This is where:

• Goals are set

• Action plans are created

• Accountability is established

The conscious mind is excellent at understanding problems and identifying solutions.

However, habits, emotional responses, and automatic behaviors are not controlled solely by the conscious mind.

Why Insight Isn’t Always Enough

If insight alone created change, personal growth would be easy.

But many clients experience:

• Procrastination despite strong intentions

• Self-doubt even after gaining clarity

• Emotional resistance when taking action

• Repeating the same patterns despite awareness

These challenges often come from subconscious beliefs formed through past experiences, conditioning, and emotional learning.

The Subconscious Mind and Internal Blocks

The subconscious mind stores:

• Emotional memories

• Habitual responses

• Core beliefs about safety, worthiness, and success

When subconscious beliefs conflict with conscious goals, change can feel exhausting or forced.

This is why coaching sometimes feels like “knowing better, but not doing better.”

When Coaching Feels Stuck

Feeling stuck doesn’t mean coaching isn’t working.
It often means something deeper needs to be addressed.

Coaching provides the map, but internal resistance can slow the journey.

In the next blog, we’ll explore how hypnosis works with the subconscious mind to support coaching and accelerate meaningful change.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words: How Hypnosis Helps You Take Action

So many of us talk about what we want, yet so few actually take the steps needed to make it happen. It’s easy to dream, plan, and hope, but real, lasting change begins with action. Procrastination keeps us stuck, while even the smallest action moves us forward toward our goals.

Sometimes, when we think about what we want or need to accomplish, fear shows up. We may feel overwhelmed, stressed, or unsure of ourselves. These fear-based emotions can quietly hold us back, keeping us in patterns of hesitation and self-doubt. The truth is, fear doesn’t protect us, it limits us. The only true failures in life are the regrets that come from never trying.

There is no such thing as failure. Every experience in life, whether it feels successful or challenging, is here to help us learn, grow, and evolve. Each step forward builds awareness, resilience, and confidence.

The most powerful way to move ahead is by taking small, manageable steps. You don’t need to see the entire path right now, you simply need to begin. Let go of the stress and worry about how big or impossible something may appear. One step at a time is more than enough.

When you think about the things you want or need to accomplish, allow yourself to feel happy and even excited. Having a sense of purpose gives your energy direction. Completing tasks feels good, boosts motivation, and strengthens self-confidence. As you continue taking steps toward your goals and dreams, those positive feelings naturally show up more and more often.

Any task you take on, complete it with a positive mindset. Each completion builds momentum and encourages you to try new things. You may even notice a childlike quality returning, curiosity, excitement, and fresh energy as you approach both new and familiar tasks.

This growing sense of motivation and confidence can strengthen each and every day, especially when your subconscious mind is aligned with your conscious goals.

Hypnosis can be a powerful support in this process. Through hypnosis, we work directly with the subconscious mind, the part of you responsible for habits, emotions, motivation, and follow-through. Hypnosis helps reduce fear-based responses, release procrastination, and create new, supportive patterns that make taking action feel natural and achievable.

If you’re ready to move beyond intention and into action, hypnosis may help you take that first step, and the next one after that, with greater ease, clarity, and confidence.

Melove

A Simple Guide to How Hypnosis Works

Hypnosis feels very much like a guided meditation or having someone read you a calming bedtime story. It is an intention-based form of meditation, focused on specific goals or areas you want to work on.

For those who have never experienced hypnosis, your only reference may be what you’ve seen on TV or in movies, where it appears as though someone’s free will is being taken away. In reality, that would require superpowers, and unfortunately, we don’t have those. If we did, we probably wouldn’t need to work at all.

Hypnosis is a natural state of deep relaxation where your subconscious mind becomes more open and receptive to positive suggestions. You remain fully aware and in control the entire time.

A helpful comparison is watching a movie. A film can make you laugh, cry, or feel deeply moved, even if the story is fictional or animated. The emotions you experience are real. You’re not “pretending” to feel them. Hypnosis works in a similar way, helping create meaningful impressions at a deeper level of the mind.

By working at this level, hypnosis supports you in making changes aligned with what you want help with whether that’s emotional healing, habit change, confidence, or personal growth.

Like learning any new skill, reinforcement matters. The more you practice and strengthen what we work on together, the faster and more effectively you’ll reach your goals. Think about learning to drive: at first it takes focus and effort, but over time it becomes second nature. Eventually, you’re on autopilot.

To support this process, we offer an MP3 recording with each session. These recordings help reinforce the work we do together, allowing you to continue strengthening positive change between sessions.

If you’re curious about hypnosis or feel drawn to creating positive change in your life, you’re invited to take the next step. When you’re ready, hypnosis can be a gentle, powerful tool to support your journey toward greater ease, clarity, and confidence.

How Inner Release Technique (IRT) and Hypnosis Help You Focus on What You Want

Have you ever noticed that when you focus on what you don’t want, it seems to happen more often? When attention stays on stress, pain, or fear, the subconscious mind continues to reinforce those experiences.

This happens because the subconscious responds to focus, emotion, and sensory experience.

In sessions, I use Inner Release Technique (IRT) a proprietary method used in Inner Soundness, alongside hypnosis to help clients release stored emotional and physical tension and gently shift subconscious patterns.

IRT works first with the body and nervous system, reducing somatic and emotional charge through sensory awareness. Once the body feels calmer and safer, hypnosis is used to support subconscious rewiring, helping the mind adopt healthier beliefs, perspectives, and responses.

For example, if you desire a healthy relationship, IRT helps release emotional blocks held in the body, while hypnosis supports the subconscious in recognizing and receiving connection, safety, and support without repeating old patterns.

A key element in both IRT and hypnosis is gratitude. After release and subconscious work, gratitude helps anchor new neural pathways and stabilize positive change.

Experience IRT and Hypnosis Together

If you feel stuck in emotional patterns, stress responses, or physical tension, combining Inner Release Technique (IRT) and hypnosis offers a gentle yet powerful path to change.

I invite you to schedule a session to experience how IRT and hypnosis can help you focus on what you truly want and create lasting transformation.

Melove

Does Hypnosis work virtually or over the phone?

One thing I have noticed in recent years is the growing number of clients curious about getting Hypnosis virtually and are wondering if a virtual Hypnosis session is as effective as an in-person one. While I prefer doing Hypnosis in-person, that doesn't mean that Hypnosis virtually is less effective. I have even successfully Hypnotized people over the phone. A virtual Hypnosis session is just as good as an in-person one.

With that being said, there are a few things that a client can do to help get the most out of their virtual Hypnosis session. One thing that will help clients get the most out of their Hypnosis session is minimizing distractions. For example clients might have difficulty relaxing if they are cooking something on the stove that can burn. Likewise they might have trouble relaxing if they have barking dogs that jump on top of them.

Another thing that can benefit clients to have a better virtual session is making sure they are in a comfortable place. Whether that place is a couch, a bed, a recliner, etc. it doesn't matter as long as they are comfortable being their for thirty minutes to an hour and a half. Last tip I can give clients to get the most out of a virtual session is that they have a good internet/cellular connection.

A question that comes up is what happens if a Hypnosist and their client gets disconnected mid-Hypnosis session? One thing that can happen is the client falls asleep and then wakes up after they have rested. Another thing that can happen is the client realizing that you have stopped talking will bring themselves out of Hypnosis to reestablish the lost connection.

By taking those few simple suggestions and implementing them when you seek a virtual Hypnosis session, you can attain all the benefits you would enjoy from an in-person Hypnosis session.

Vincent

Hypnosis misconceptions

No matter how well I explain hypnosis, how it works, or what it is, people still have misconceptions about what hypnosis truly is. Hypnosis does not take peoples free will away, nor is it a passive process. A hypnotist is not able to change a person or their habits unless they want to change. I have had people come into sessions with a preconceived notion that all they will have to do is get hypnotized, and all their problems will disappear. While it is true that most clients do feel better after the hypnosis session if they do not reinforce what we have worked on in the session people tend to fall back into bad habits and thought patterns. If you are curious about what hypnosis feels like we have a blog post here. We give people tools and techniques to help reinforce what we worked on between sessions, and the people who utilize them see more benefit and tend to need fewer sessions to obtain the goals they desire. Hypnosis can bring profound, life-changing results to a person's life, but it's not magic. Bringing positive changes into one's life is work, and it takes conscious effort to bring about. If one is willing to put in the effort and utilizes the additional tools that we provide the benefits one can achieve is close to limitless.

Vincent

Friends I want to attract

We all have heard, that you are what you eat. It's the same thing with you, you are what you feed your mind. So I feed my mind daily with my affirmations.

The intention / Manifestation list is like a vision board. It's a list I use for my affirmations. Not only do I read it and update it as needed on a regular basis, but I also record it into an mp3 and listen to it regularly.

I wrote this list as if what I want to manifest had already manifested. I feel it to every fiber of my being when I meditate on my affirmations and it's amazing how well and quickly you can manifest things when you believe them to be true.

The more you make your manifestation real, the more your subconscious believes it is so, and you can't help but attract more positive things into your life.

I have had so many people ask for my "Friends that I want to attract" list, and I wanted to share it with anyone who may also like it. You can personalize it and also make a list like this for other things that you would like to manifest, like career, relationship, family...

Friends I want to attract

My friends are successful and help me to become even better.

My friends are supportive of my goals and are happy to let others know about my services.

My friends are spiritual and resonate with me on a higher level.

My friends are fun, positive, and uplifting and I can count on them.

My friends are kind-hearted, genuine, grateful, and wise.

I trust my friends and they trust me because we all want the best for one another.

We are honest and yet we don’t judge one another.

Hope you all enjoy this list.

Melove